I am not whining, I’m just telling you how it is…

Typically, it is not this early in the season that I am thankful that the boys scheduled a fishing trip on an off-day. On most off-days, I feel so excited to actually have a sidekick for a day that I make a big deal of it. Mat and I will make it a point to do something fun, whether that’s go to the zoo, get lost exploring or watch movies in bed all day. The main point is that we spend time together. Toward the end of the season, I might find myself encouraging him to go hang out with the boys because I need a day to regroup. I am embarrassed to admit that my girly feelings tell me that, this year, I’m already at that point and my brain is telling me that the season has only just begun and that I better pull it together- and fast.

It’s not that I’m exhausted physically. It’s not like I physically carried our belongings from San Diego to Arizona to Cincinnati. It’s not like I even carried them up from the car to our new living quarters. I can’t even really look back and say I’ve done anything extra crazy besides make a million phone calls and send a million emails and pack boxes and, you know, figure our lives out. This really shouldn’t have drained me, because I’m not usually much of a wimp, but it did.

I guess this is the part where I admit that mental exhaustion exists and there is only so much chaos a person can take before he or she decides that the most productive thing to do is to stay in bed watching Animal Planet all day. To be fair, I got up to take a shower around 2 and then I finally ordered some chicken noodle soup from room service around 3 but you get where I’m going. I needed a day to just zone out.

I think the stressful part about this trade is probably best defined as “everything”. While I am certain that I am going to figure Cincinnati out, my first week there was filled with anxiety and ultimately made me depressed. This has nothing to do with the city itself or with the ballpark or with baseball at all. It had everything to do with the fact that adjusting to a new city far far away from your family and friends is stressful no matter what the reason for relocation is.

I will point out that it’s a much different experience for Mat than it is for me because he has a job to go to every day. That makes it easier for him to make new friends or at least see human faces and he’s not the one spending 9-10 hours a day alone, trying to sort his life out like I am. I love alone time but I think it reaches a point where it’s some kind of unhealthy. Add that to feeling stranded and helpless because you have no idea how to get anywhere and that point approaches much more quickly. I passed that point about 5 days ago.

As soon as I get back to town, I have full intentions of figuring this “life in a new city” thing out. I need to go out and explore, find a place I like to go for coffee, my new favorite breakfast spot, where on earth the yoga studios are, maybe make some friends, find a place to volunteer, etc. etc.  I realize that my problems seem trivial to most onlookers but the fact of the matter is that these things affect me as much as some more “serious” problems affect others when I let them get me down (I really loathe people trivializing the problems of others, by the way. Put your scales away).

Happiness is a choice and no matter how challenging things seem or how depressed we might find ourselves, we all have the power to figure it out. Sometimes, you just have to try a little harder than others. I always feel incredibly selfish when I get in these blue moods because I have so much to be thankful for, but I will do my best to keep the frowns upside down when we get back from the upcoming Chicago series. I guess the really cheesy moral of the story here is that your life is what you make it, so you ought to do what you can to make it your flavor of awesome.

Hugs and killer whales.

Dallas

p.s. I think it might be kind of ridiculous that I just watched an hour-long special on sperm whales and didn’t learn anything I didn’t already know. Related-ish: the number one thing I’m excited to get back home for is visiting the Newport Aquarium again. YEAH BUDDY! (See, things are looking up already). Oh! And you can start expecting posts on my Cincinnati experiences also. (:

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Great yoga studios in town, depending on your location. Two hot yogas on the east side, Bikram & Moksha. Not sure about the west side. Cincy can be tough at first because everyone seems to have known each other since high school, but you’ll find some great people to hang out with. Welcome to Cincinnati – we’re happy to have you. :)

Thank you! My serious mission is to figure out how to get to said yoga studios. Driving in Cincy is way different than driving on the west coast!

In the short time that I have been following your tweets and reading your blog, I am certain that you will soon be feeling better! (p.s.I know nothing about sperm whales, however.)

Thanks for keeping the faith (:

FWIW, I highly recommend Coffee Emporium for delicious drinks (locations in East Hyde Park and Downtown) and The Echo in Hyde Park for a great diner breakfast. Welcome to Cincinnati!

OOO! Good tip! I will check that out!

I am sure the people in the area that you live in will offer ideas you will find out the people in this city are very friendly

That, they are! I’ve definitely gotten tons of help so far. I think I need to hire someone to drive around the area with me so I’m not so lost while driving. haha

Iris on Main for coffee/quiet; Coffee Emporium on Central Pkwy for people watching; Mayberry on Main for brunch. I’m a transplant, too. This city takes some getting used to, but it has its charms.

Cool breakfast place? Anchor Grill in Covington. It’s a little hole in the wall. Front room has a bunch of old ship models and the backroom has a Barbie Doll band that kicks on every time the juke box plays. Also, since it’s in Covington, some entertaining wahoo will stumble in off the street!

Since you are new to the city and you want breakfast food, you should try Goetta, it’s really good. My favorite meal at the Anchor is a Goetta and Cheese omelet. Heart attack on a plate, but it’s good stuff!

Hang in there. Cincy maybe a little tough to get to know but it is really worth the effort. Glad you are both part of our REDS.

Enjoy reading your thoughts. They are insightful.

I definitely relate to your new-city feelings (we unfortunately just moved to DC) and also your comment on not trivializing other people’s feelings :) Thanks for that! Cincy is a great town and we can’t wait to move back – and like the others say, we are definitely happy to have to here. The Newport Aquarium is awesome and that’s not just because my sig other’s mom works there :) Also I recommend exploring around the river near the art museum – and ALSO you should check out the blog 365Cincinnati for some really great ideas of stuff to do around town :)

I can definitely relate, I moved to Cincinnati a couple years ago from Alabama, talk about culture shock! I to am still trying to figure this crazy place out! I actually work in NKY, but I’m only about 5 minutes from down town Cincy. I have no idea where anything is so I never cross the river! But I guess in time we will both conquer Cincinnati! Best of luck to you!

I just wanted to say that I enjoy the blog, and I look forward to hearing about your Cincinnati experiences. As a life-long Cincinnatian, I’ve always been curious to hear the perspective people have when experiencing my home town for the first time. The recommendations above are all great (especially Coffee Emporium and The Echo). I’d also recommend checking out the Ludlow area of Clifton (a 5 minute drive from downtown). Eclectic shops, indie movies, at least one really good coffee shop (Sitwells), and good food of various ethnicities.

You could volunteer at the Ronald McDonald house. Ive helped some and I have an uncle who is there every day

Hey have you tried cincinnati style chilli?

I did.. Skyline to be exact. I’m going to assume it’s an acquired taste ;)

Thanks for sharing. Remember how last season you said a baseball wife is not a glamorous lifestyle?

Yep. And i’ll KEEP saying that until it proves me otherwise!

Thanks for sharing. We will see you once you come back to SD …

Second the recommendations on Sitwells (Ludlow St. area) for some coffee, lunch & shopping – but gotta go Lookout Joe in Mt. Lookout for a good coffee/snack/people watching venue. Also, looks like there’s a day game in Cincy on 4/26 – not sure if Mat is pitching for that – but if he’s not tired out after, the zoo is free for an evening event from 6-8:30pm. There’s a band, beer, exhibits are open. It’s a pretty cool local thing they do every Thursday night in April. I’d highly recommend YouDoYoga on Main St. (or on Beechmont in Anderson Twp.) for a yoga practice. Ambiance on Madison has the best pedicure & manicure menu while still getting walk-ins done in a timely fashion – though University Nails on Clifton is quieter & is more quality consistent. First Watch on 7th will get you fed breakfast – but be sure to check out Just Crepes on 4th or on Court. Tuckers on Vine is also incredible if you can give the ambiance some latitude.

I’ll volunteer to be your friend. :)

Newport Aquarium is great – they have SharkRays, which are really unique. The zoo in Cincinnati is one of the best. Welcome! I enjoy your blog and wish you and Mat the best of luck. Fingers crossed for a win in St Louis!

Don’t forget the smaller towns outside the city, too! Lebanon has a great Blues Fest and Applefest(you should DEFINTELY check out Iron’s Fruit Farm’s cider donuts!), Waynseville has the Sauerkraut Festival. I’m sure there are more, but those are off the top of my head.

try some goetta…….seriously……it’s fantastic (and a cincy thing) if you don’t like it, then blame me ! (:

Yoga: An out-of-the-ordinary suggestion, but the Cincinnati Art Museum offers “Yoga with the Masters” every Tuesday from 6-7:15 p.m. Instructor-led yoga in the various galleries.

I’ll definitely chime in with Coffee Emporium on Central Parkway suggestion. It’s one of the best places in the city to sit outside and people watch in the summer. We have lots of great Yoga studios in and around Cincy with some really amazing instructors so I’m sure you’ll have no problem finding one you love. If you get a chance to check out the Cincinnati Art Museum/Krone Conservatory, I highly, highly recommend it. I know what you mean about finding your way around here. I’ve lived here my whole life and I still get lost every now and then…

If you’re looking for volunteer opportunities, check out the Interfaith Hospitality Network of Greater Cincinnati. My step-mom is the current president and they do great work for needy families in the area. If you’re interested go here and check it out: http://www.ihncincinnati.org/ Also, welcome to Cincinnati, it really is a great city, just be patient and open minded – which I’m sure you are.

Dallas, you’re about an hour and a half (75 miles) from Lexington, Ky. If you like horses, you’ll love it here. The Kentucky Horse Park is off I-75 South (about an hour from Cincinnati). It is a very beautiful place to visit and I highly recommend it. Welcome to the area..

Cincinnati chili, goetta, Graeter’s ice cream, Cincinnati Zoo, Newport Aquarium. That’ll get you through your first month in Ohio!
East-siders will tell you were the yoga studios are.
West-siders will serve you a plate of goetta!

I moved to Cincinnati several years ago (for my now husband) from Kansas City, and I will 100% agree with you that it is extremely difficult to get around here! The Hub-A-Dub tries to steer all conversations away from that because he knows it will set me off. I don’t understand this fascination with changing the name of the street every block, and then NOT having a street sign at an intersection! And I wish you luck getting out and meeting people! I still feel like the only girlfriends I have are wives of my husband’s friends. I need to get out more too. : /

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