Baseball Baby Probs

Let me pre-curse this post with a very important life tip: never take a pregnancy test on a Friday night with a house full of family when you aren’t trying to get pregnant. Just trust me.

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When I found out I was pregnant, not only did I go through a stage of denial and then panic, I quickly realized that if this test wasn’t lying to me, I would be having a baby during baseball season. While this statement may not mean much to you, I was immediately horrified as I imagined a lonely pregnancy in Cincinnati without family, friends or a husband half of the time, growing a human during the most stressful months of the year, Mat possibly missing the birth of our first child. The list goes on. I cried for WEEKS.

While we didn’t plan on having a baby just yet, we planned on one day planning it so that our first child would be born in the off-season for all sorts of (hopefully) obvious reasons. I somehow managed to forget that we live life on the no-plan plan and here it was- another curve ball that I wasn’t ready for (excuse the corny baseball pun, I had to do it).

Back to choosing the timing of a pregnancy test wisely, four weeks went by and it was finally time to go to the doctor to confirm that this stick wasn’t a liar. I was living in a little bit of shock with a side of disbelief in the meantime. As you probably know by now, a little Latos was in fact on the way and we were told when our little alien would make it’s way into the world. The first thing I did was open my MLB At Bat app to confirm the last thing that I ever wanted to see- my due date falling right in the middle of a road trip. MOTHER OF GOD.

Earlier last year, a handful of athlete’s and their wives caught a whole lot of criticism for having babies during their husband’s respective sports season causing said athletes to miss games for paternity leave. Some sports talk personalities even went so far as to say that the athlete’s should not have missed games for the births of their children referencing reasons like it being the second child, playoffs, etc. I watched all of this unfold in horror as I sat there making my own little human who could possibly one day inconvenience the sports world. GREAT. While it shouldn’t have affected me, hearing all of that negative banter about an already insane situation (in my mind) just added to my anxiety. To each their own but child-birth was easily on my top 3 list of fears and I couldn’t imagine going through it without my best friend by my side.

While a due date is nothing more than a possible day that your baby MIGHT come, you still have to operate as if that’s the day you need to be ready and I had three choices. The first was a natural . The pro here is that this is generally the most healthy, best option for both mother and baby. The con was that there would be a good chance that Mat would not be able to make it back on time once I went into labor as he was scheduled to be on the road a few days before and after my actual due date. That was a huge (emphasis on HUGE) con for me right off the bat so I wrote this option off almost immediately. The two choices left were to plan to induce labor or plan a c-section.

I won’t go through the laundry list of reasons why a c-section was more appealing to me given our situation but I will tell you this- this was one of the hardest decisions of my life. Fortunately my due date was close enough to an off-day to schedule baby extraction surgery on that day. This decision allowed for Mat to be in the hospital with us all day and return to work the following day. Landon was born on a Monday and Mat was scheduled to pitch that Thursday. As daunting as my in-season child-birth once seemed, it actually worked out perfectly as Mat didn’t have to miss a start to be there.

MLB allows players 3 days for paternity leave so Mat slept at the hospital with us and went to work from there until we were released. He took his paternity leave once we were allowed to come home and then he met up with the team in Baltimore. There was no point in him sitting in the hospital with us for three days so we decided that it would be best that he take his time off once we were allowed to come home to make the adjustment to life with a newborn a little easier. Plus, with a ten-day road trip right around the corner, I was worried that he wouldn’t have enough bonding time. I was worried that I would feel like a nightmare post surgery. I was worried that he would be stressed out. It’s accurate to say that there is not much I wasn’t worried about at that point.

Speaking of points, I’m not sure where I’m going with this post other than to do what I always do- humanize the game. I am in no way trying to paint a picture of a sob story or even complain about our situation because we are #BLESSED, but people can be so quick to be cruel about a number of things that they may not fully understand. It would be unfair of me not to acknowledge that things could have been much more complicated. Imagine if Mat was in the minors and it was a financial burden to travel. Imagine if the baby came early and he couldn’t get back on time despite my meticulous planning. Imagine the military dads who are overseas when their children are born.

While there are always scenarios where “things could be worse” (or more complicated), this is our story. Countless people criticized my decision for a planned c-section but I knew that this was the only reasonable scenario given the circumstances and nobody had to experience it but me. I cannot express enough that it is so, SO kind to think before you offer unsolicited opinions on personal matters. It’s easy to judge but it’s never too soon or too late for a reminder that we don’t always know what goes on “behind closed doors”.

– D

 

 

38 Comments

Thank you for sharing and Congrats and hope to see you at Redsfest

Motherhood is the greatest gift on earth. Every pregnancy and raising of said child is different. Raise Landon the best you know how and remember there will alway be sometime to criticize your patenting. Just do your best and you’re doing the right thing.

Congratulations again. Welcome to motherhood.

God bless you and your family! I am glad things worked out so well & you have a happy, healthy baby!

Bravo Dallas! It isn’t anyone else’s business how or why you make the choices you make.

I had a planned C-section with my second child, after 38 hours of labor and an emergency C-section with my first. I didn’t and still don’t regret it. When someone else walks in your shoes then they can comment. Until then ignore ’em!

Dallas,
As someone who has been fortunate enough to witness the birth of both of my sons (both by c-section) I learned one thing. When it comes to the birth of your child, nothing else matters. You can try to accommodate all of the external forces that pull you on a daily basis, but only to the extent that works for you. You being able to schedule the birth allowed you to share this experience with the other most important person in the equation, without greatly affecting all of the other parties that rely on Mat doing his job. Hope you are getting to enjoy your time together during the offseason. Happy Holidays.

Dallas thank you for sharing your story because it let’s fans know how hard it can be to be married to a ballplayer. You are under a microscope no matter what you do and that is not fair to you, Mat or your child. i hope the 3 of you are getting to know each other and I hope is still in Cincinnati when the new season begins.

Great blog post! Thanks for sharing your journey! Everyone’s reasons for how they handle life choices are theirs and theirs alone. I agree it’s best to keep your opinions to yourself and just offer love and support to all new Moms. Hope you feel the love from your Reds fan community. Landon is so adorable and I’m just thankful you’ve turned into one of ‘those’ moms and post lots of pix:) xoxo

excellent post. Give us an up date on Landon, soon. Please!

What a gift from God a child is albeit off-season or not…embrace and enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and let those who judge , look into there own lives before they judge yours…Congratulations to you and Matt and I truly hope and pray for a happy healthy pregnancy and baby!! Congratulations my sweet Dallas!!

Great post, Dallas. I usually don’t comment but my fiancé and I just found out that we are expecting our first child, not planned at all either. It’s comforting to know that it’s ok to be in denial, scared and that I cried my eyes out for days. I am also finishing my second degree, unemployed and have to push back my student teaching which is not the ideal situation but thank you for opening my eyes that things could be so much worse. Congratulations to you and Mat! I hope to see you at Reds Fest!

love dallas and mat! great blog and so glad you are in cincy!

I want to start by saying congrats to you both!! I know the emotions, all too well, when it comes to an unplanned pregnancy. My husband and I wanted to wait, until we were a little more financially stable…but our dd came exactly when God planned! 😊
Anyway, I know how judged you can feel for your birthing/parenting choices. (I have plenty of stories.) We should be uplifting & applauding each other, not ripping each other apart! Just know that what you choose is the best way for YOU, and that’s all that matters!
Good luck momma!

Also…Mat is my favorite baseball player, and we’re so happy that he came to Cincy! Go Redlegs!!

First, congratulations on your precious gift from God. Your family is truly blessed. I am so happy you have come to respect other people’s personal decisions. I’m just sorry you had to learn that lesson the hard way. So next time you see a mother nursing her baby, please understand that is her personal decision to do what is best for her baby. She doesn’t need to hear or see other people’s opinions about how inappropriate it is or how she needs to go into hiding until she weans her baby. Can’t wait to see pictures of Landon as he grows! Cherish every moment!

Oh Dallas, you worry too much! Live The life that is BEST for YOUR family and screw the rest. It’s hard I know, not to worry what others think – but trust me, in the end, only your little circle, matters. You are doing a great job!

Congratulations to you and Matt. Parenthood is not easy but with love and patience it is the most rewarding thing I have ever known.

First, Thank you for sharing your story. Second, Everyone makes decisions best for themselves and we all need to respect the choices made. Welcome Landon to Cincy and will look forward to seeing you at the ballpark with your Red’s shirt!
p.s. Love the name and my first grandson’s name is also Landon!

Well said, Dallas! My heart goes out to women like you that are faced with such a hard decision like that and then being left to take care of a newborn by yourself. I’ve had 2 c-sections so I know the criticism you received. Hang in there and congrats on the new baby!

Congrats to you and Mat! Hope to see you all at Redsfest!

Thank you for sharing your story. Mat and you have the cutest little guy. I enjoy looking at his photos on Instagram when you post. (And other Reds babys)
I am not a professional athletes wife, nor have anything pressing in life. However, I did schedule all 3 of my c-sections around “life”. Heck, one was planned around our local county fair!! Bottom line is, you do what you have to do to accommodate you & Mats schedules, screw the negative people.
I had 3 “surprise” pregnancies, thus why I hate surprises to this day🙂

Again a great big Congratulations to you, Mat and Landon. Children are a blessing, planned or not!! I hope to see all three of you in Goodyear !!!!

Beautiful momma, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone! Each family’s situation is unique and you do what’s right for YOUR family. Haters gonna hate. Congratulations on your little prince! Soak it up! The days are long but the years go by fast!

Don’t worry about negative people, you are blessed. There’s no schedule that will be perfect for birth or death. Congratulations with the new one, and have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Only congratulations and best wishes from this fan

Wow congrats, people are crazy if he is there for the birth great, if he can’t make it that suck but life goes on.

Your body – your decision. Your baby – your life. I would have done the same thing to have my whole family together! Well played!

It is no one’s business but yours and Mats. God blessed you with a child-now go raise him to the best of your ability and that there is certainly MORE to life than baseball.

As an Army wife (at the time) who went through this delima, you had every right to be fearful. I found out I was 2 months pregnant a month after my husband deployed to Afghanistan. I was terrified I would deliver alone in NY away from family and my husband wouldn’t make it back in time for leave. Luckily things aligned and I was induced the day after he arrived home for mid tour leave. We got to spend 2 weeks together before he had to go back for his final 4 months.

Don’t ever let anyone put you down for your decision. We are lucky we won’t have to face this delima again since my husband has now left the military due to post deployment issues. Every father should have the chance to be with their family during this glorious time of new life!

Its your body and your choice. I had the option of being induced and I decided to do that, some people were not happy about it but it was the right decision for me. You do what is right for you and your baby is healthy and happy than that is all that matters.

Thanks for sharing with us! I am still amazed how well you hid the pregnancy during the season. Keep posting pictures and updates. We are so glad to have you in Cincinnati. Happy Thanksgiving!

Hi Dallas & Mat,it was great reading this Mon. night when i got home from the Bengals Show @ Holy Grail !This is Russ Borchard,i said hi to you both as you were coming in – and i was leaving. I’m the short,grey haired guy – who askedMat about a photo with him. Sorry i did ! All of you have a Great Thanksgiving !!! From: So I Married A Baseball Player… To: rhb148@yahoo.com Sent: Monday, November 24, 2014 4:55 PM Subject: [New post] Baseball Baby Probs #yiv1474326905 a:hover {color:red;}#yiv1474326905 a {text-decoration:none;color:#0088cc;}#yiv1474326905 a.yiv1474326905primaryactionlink:link, #yiv1474326905 a.yiv1474326905primaryactionlink:visited {background-color:#2585B2;color:#fff;}#yiv1474326905 a.yiv1474326905primaryactionlink:hover, #yiv1474326905 a.yiv1474326905primaryactionlink:active {background-color:#11729E;color:#fff;}#yiv1474326905 WordPress.com | Dallas Latos posted: “Let me pre-curse this post with a very important life tip: never take a pregnancy test on a Friday night with a house full of family when you aren’t trying to get pregnant. Just trust me.When I found out I was pregnant, not only did I go through a” | |

Hi Dallas. I am so glad you started these blogs. It’s a lot of girls dream to marry someone famous. They don’t really know what it’s like. All the ups and downs and people talking.
I really hope Mat doesn’t get traded. He is a great pitcher and seems down to earth.
Your son is the cutest thing.
I’m disabled. As soon as that happened the people I thought were my “friends” quit talking to me. I was wondering if we could talk. If you say no I understand you probably get a lot of people asking you.
I’m not afraid to ask the worst is a no. I have heard that a lot in my lifetime.
Have a great Thanksgiving 🍗

Congratulations on your trade to Miami. They are on the move and full of talent

I read this upon hearing that your husband had been traded.

It is sad that you had a lonely pregnancy with your professional baseball player husband gone.

Imagine this: your boyfriend leaves you at six months pregnant. You are a teacher. Alone. Your baby is born with a cleft palate. You don’t have money or family to help. You are alone with a baby, and you are told that baby may die.

If you are going to have a blog, talk about something meaningful. A pity party for someone who doesn’t need a job is annoying. Get a clue.

Hi Dallas. I’ve been a Cincinnati Reds fan my entire life. I’ve really appreciated your husband. He’s a great pitcher and I’m really sad to see him go. I’ve been enjoying your blog and I think you’re super. Lol. I hope that you continue to share your thoughts with us about the move and the new opportunity in Florida. I only wish y’all didn’t have to go😦

I wish your family great fortune in the future. We’ll miss you here.

Oh yeah, and Beth ^^^ is a weak hater who should maybe try her hand at fiction. On someone else’s time. The title of the page pretty much explains what you’re talking about here. Haters gonna hate. Latos gotta latosate.

Enjoyed your blog It doesn’t matter how your baby comes into the world C-sections save many women and their babies What matters you have a beautiful healthy baby Landon came into the world with both parents by his side Good job to all Miss the Latos in Cinci love to see pics of Landon

Not sure if you still check this or not. Your husband is a sleeze ball. I found recently through reliable sources that he fucked one of my friends when he played for Cincinnati. Yes, you guys were married during this time. Thought you should know. Cheating fucking douche bag shouldn’t be able to get away with it.

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